As I type, Tyler is crying in his bed. It's been a long week, and it's not over yet. It didn't start off bad. Monday was not a bad day at preschool, but by Tuesday the calls from preschool started. It seems that Tyler doesn't want to listen or take naps. I'm not sure what exactly brings this on. On Tuesday, I thought I could blame the nasty weather and say that he's been couped up too long. But they've been outside the past two days. We had a few rough days about 3 or 4 weeks ago, but since then he's been fine. This week, he has refused to listen, and during nap time instead of being quiet he gets louder each time they tell him to quiet down. He prevents other kids from sleeping, which probably is the most upsetting to me. I've gotten a call every day this week. Tuesday, Josh actually went up there. Today as I talked to Tyler on the phone hunched at my desk whispering threatening words to him, he kept right on about his business. I'm happy he knows his months of the year, but nap time is not a place to yell them! Josh and I have gone back and forth about how to deal with it at home. First, I was against doing any punishment at home because I felt and still slightly feel that at this age, he's not 100% capable of making the connection between what happened hours ago at school and what he is getting punished for at home. However, by day 3 I had to start to give in to Josh's logic. I think often I forget that he knows more than I think he does. Tyler, that is :-) He is able to tell me why he got in trouble, and he certainly is upset when I come pick him up and bring him over to his apple tree. Today, he pushed me away as I brought him over there. He's ashamed and upset, as he should be. He's been the ultimate definition of a "trying three." He's developed stubborness, independence, and defiance. He's even learned to stick out his tongue at his teachers. Yet, of course we still love him the same. It's just hard this week because when he's good, he's so good. But weeks like this are just too much. Is it bad to feel embarrassed when I have to answer the phone knowing very well where that number on the caller ID is coming from? Or when I have to walk in and see the disappointment of his teacher's face? I feel like it.
It's finally quiet 40 minutes later. I pray he's finally down for the night.
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((hugs)) Been there, done that with Brennan when he started school this year. We started a reward system so he had something to look forward to when I picked him up from school. If he had a good day he got a reward/treat when I picked him up, if not, no reward or treat. His teacher reminded him about it throughout the day if his behavior got questionable. He also got little reward certificates from his teacher for having a good day. A little incentive went a long way with B. Hopefully Tyler has a better week next week!
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